Posts by Alyson Daley

Wife | Mom | Sister | Friend | Wearer of Babies | Cloth Diaper Advocate | Lactavist | Lover of long-lost sleep, tank tops, jeans and the color gray.

Cheap “Stretchy Flats”

Have some old jersey cotton T-shirts laying around? Here’s a simple, step-by-step way to turn ONE shirt into TWO “flat diapers.”

An XLarge T-shirt works best but even a Large could work. The bigger, the better (because it’s more absorbent).

Next, cut the arms off the shirt (cut inside of the seam, on the side of the shirt versus the arm)

Then, cut the ribbed neck of shirt off.

TA-DAH!! Now you have 2 Flat Diapers for $0!

I’ve always loved the Kite Fold. Here is one of the T-shirt Flats with a snappi!

Black Breastfeeding Week Brunch

It’s that time again.

When I flood your timeline with photos, blog posts, and articles about Black Breastfeeding Week…and why it’s needed. If you aren’t familiar with this week, and the desperate need for it, read up on it here.

Now that that’s out the way, let’s celebrate. You see, I was hesitant to host a Black Breastfeeding Week Brunch at my home for several reasons.

Would anyone come? Would too many come, and I wouldn’t have enough room? Will they enjoy the informal get together (because I don’t have a thing planned 🤣)?

But guess what? I decided to do it. I promoted it in various spaces online, and I personally invited some friends. These ladies showed up and showed out — including some new breastfriends!

This year’s theme was #LoveOnTop, and from the Black Breastfeeding Week website, here’s why that was chosen:

“This year, we say #LoveOnTop because love encompasses everything we do as parents from breastfeeding to nurturing others. Love is also how we survive grief, overcome breastfeeding and parenting challenges and why we practice good self-care. This year we invite you, your family and your community to put Love on Top of it all!”

We couldn’t leave out an important component of the theme — remembering the babies that are no longer with us. I invited any of the moms who lost their little one, whether they made it earth side or not, to write their names on a card and light of candle in memory of them. A child is never forgotten in a mom’s heart.

Happy 1st Birthday, Son!

To my third biological child — happy birthday to you!

It’s been said that the youngest child, or the last child, is the most spoiled.  They are typically the carefree ones, the risk-taker, because parents are less cautious by the time they have their third child (or last child).  I’m not sure if any of this is true just yet (except that we are definitely less cautious this time around).  One thing I do know, is that these last 365 days of the year have been THE TOUGHEST of all my parenting days.

“Have another baby,” they said.

“He’s cute,” they tell me.

I keep telling myself, “this won’t last forever.”

Except, when this baby isn’t like the others!  You would think we would know what we’re doing by the third baby, right?  Wrong.

I honestly, BARELY REMEMBER the first four months of his life.  I, we, were in literal survival mode.  Not only did we have a 2.5 year old to care for, but for 10 weeks straight, he would literally SCREAM for hours and hours and hours…and then some more.  Nothing worked — and I’m a babywearing, breastfeeding pro!  Or so I thought!  I had the most difficult time learning (yes, learning!) to breastfeed this boy.  It was painful.  It was tiring.  It was driving my insane.  Was I really going insane?  Is this what postpartum depression feels like??  As quickly as his screaming stopped, separation anxiety kicked in and now we have a STAGE 5 CLINGER.  Eeeek!

Life was getting crazy.  Hurricanes were coming (literally)!  I was losing myself and friendships.


Here we are.  An entire year around the sun.  Though it was tough, I have SO MUCH to be grateful for.  I may have lost friendships, but I’ve also gained some beautiful friendships, too (something that many mothers will tell you, is difficult to do).  I’m volunteering and working in a community that I love.  We have a beautiful family and an amazing extended family that is always around.

So yes.  Nothing lasts forever.  But for now, I’ll celebrate this little guy that has completely changed our lives — Steele Lee Roy ❤

Cloth Diapers – How To B/S/T


It seems like a you need a dictionary nowadays, to decipher what all of these acronyms mean.  It was certainly overwhelming to me when I first ventured into the world of BSTing.  BSTing is simply a term used to describe the process of “buying / selling / trading.”  For many, buying cloth diapers secondhand is an excellent way to save a lot of money, while still being able to afford a particular brand or style of diapers that work for you and your family.  Some are initially turned off by it, but purchasing “preloved” diapers and sanitizing them with a 30 minute bleach soak, makes them good as new!

Like everything else, once you do it a few times, and granted you have good experiences, it gets easier and you know what to be on the lookout for.  Here are a few ways to “safely” BST…

When BUYING diapers:

  1. Ask the condition of the diapers (Excellent Used Condition / Good Used Condition).  Though the condition that is mentioned is all relative, be sure to ask the seller a few questions about it.
    • How is the PUL?
    • How are the elastics?
    • How long have you owned them?  Are you the first owner?
    • What kind of detergent do you use?
  2. Don’t be afraid to ask for a few additional pictures of the insides, if they aren’t initially posted.
  3. ONLY use a reliable payment method that offers protection for your transactions.  I personally prefer PayPal (hence the small fee you pay when you sell an item).  It’s been around awhile and as a buyer, you DO NOT need a PayPal account.  As long as you have an email address, you’ll receive an invoice / link where you can enter your debit or credit card information.


When SELLING diapers:

  1. Look over the condition of your diaper and try to list the description as accurately as possible.
    • EUC – Excellent Used Condition. Hardly worn, no flaws or issues, typically you’re the first owner of the diaper and can vouch for how well it’s taken care of.  Elastics are almost new.
    • GUC – Good Used Condition. Worn but still has a good amount of life left to the diapers.  PUL should still be intact with no issues.  Elastics may have lost some stretch, but still functioning well.
    • Fair / Play Condition – Used a lot, in which the elastics are stretched out or almost to the max.  The PUL may have holes or cracked, and the diaper may leak.  This diaper would be best used as a “swim diaper,” or if the PUL is functional, the buyer could replace the elastics.
  2. Provide pictures of outer, bum and inside photos.  Then, list a price and state whether the price includes shipping (PPD) or not.  PPD is the acronym for Postage Paid Domestically, meaning the seller agrees to pay for shipping as long as the buyer lives domestically.
  3. When invoicing the buyer, it’s in your best interest to provide details.  What is the name and style of the diaper? What is the condition?  Are you including any inserts? Is shipping included the in price?

**Including all details in your invoice, protects you, as a seller.  When the buyer received it, if there is an issue with “not receiving an insert,” or “not receiving a diaper as stated,” then you have some sort of proof to provide to PayPal during the dispute.  Although the buyer is responsible for reading the invoice and details / condition, they may still challenge it.


When TRADING diapers:

This isn’t done often, but if 2 parties would like to trade diapers, it’s best to do it as follows…

  1. Each party declares the “trade value” of their diaper.
  2. Each person invoices the other person for the amount the diaper costs (i.e. the trade value)
  3. Each person pays their invoice (even if it’s the same amount of money going back and forth)
  4. Then ship your diaper, after payment is received.

*Paying for each of your trades, protects each party, in the instance that a diaper isn’t received or it is damaged.  In that case, a claim to PayPal could be made.

Lastly, if you decide to BST your diapers locally, it’s still recommended that you follow these steps.  I’ve purchased and sold via PayPal even when purchasing or selling locally.  The good news is, odds are typically in your favor overall.  In 3.5 years of doing this, I’ve only had two “real” issue with a buyer — one was resolved directly with the buyer, and the other was resolved with PayPal.

**Diapers in the photo are from Shine Cloth**

9 Kids, Every Year.

9 Kids.

Every year, in MY zip code in South Florida, 9 kids are removed from their homes and families!*

Now.  When I moved here a little over a year ago, it was by God’s grace that we found this beautiful home and were able to afford it. Let me give you a few facts about where I live:


  • My City’s Median Income: $71,000+ (compared to the US’ $65,000+)
  • Unemployment Rate: 4.4% (compared to the US’s 5.2%)
  • Crime Rate: 16 (On a scale from 1 – 100, the US’s average is 31)
  • Education: 35% of Citizens hold 4-year degrees (29% of the US does)
  • Median Value of a Home: $313,000


I know those are just numbers, but it gives you a glimpse into my neighborhood. Like many, when we looked to buy a home, our first concern was LOCATION and SCHOOLS. My kids go to public school, and I want my home to be an investment.  Whether you agree with the public school ratings or not, living in a zone with A-rated schools, almost guarantees that your home’s value will increase over time.  It ALSO means that the cost of homes would be almost out of reach for us.

Stay with me here.

Its easy to look at our neighbors, our kid’s friends at school, the people we shop in grocery stores with, and those whom we attend church with…and think, “Wow, 9 kids will be taken from their homes before 2018 is over.”

Not to mention, less than 30 minutes from where I live, two neighboring zip codes have the highest rates of removal with over 100+ kids being removed each year.

Where will they go?? According to 4Kids — a non-profit child welfare agency, they will be placed in shelters, group homes, foster care families, and independent living homes.  They started the #CloseToHome4Kids social media Campaign, to bring light to this crisis.  Will you make a donation today?  Are you will to take the next step to fostering a child?

We did.  We are foster parents, and we’ll never regret the impact it’s made in our lives!

*According to 4Kids website.